I’ve found most of my spanking partners on Spankfinder. I’ve had to sort through some pretty crazy stuff to separate the wheat from the chaff, but for the most part, it’s been worth it.

There is, however, one trend that has been bothering me disproportionately. (Or as told the pwner yesterday, unproportionally. Is so a word!)

I get first contact messages that go on and on about what a naughty girl I am, and how much a need to be punished. And it just rubs me the wrong way. Anything you may have read here notwithstanding, there is nothing about my profile that says brat.

I’m all for a little fun scolding whilst over a knee, or engaging in roleplay, and I am all for real punishments for real transgressions, but I am not a bad girl. I’m a good girl, goddammit!

I couldn’t begin to fathom how our relationship would even work if the pwner was telling me all the time, or had told me in our first conversation, that I am was a bad girl.

I understand that some girls get off on it, but they generally engage in overtly bratty behaviors rather consistently and are pretty clear about it in their profiles.

I might engage in bratty banter while over a knee getting a fun spanking (like at the party!), but I don’t brat for spanking attention. The pwner doesn’t play that game. Good girls get spankings and attention and what they want. Bad girls get grounded, ignored, and things they don’t want. And that’s how I like it.

Now I’m not saying I’m a stick in the mud. If it’s a Top’s form of affection to call someone ‘naughty girl’ every once in a while, I’m cool with that. Especially if it’s said with a smile and that look in the eye that says, ‘We’re both going to enjoy this,’ but as an opening line?

No. Really. Get a new shtick.

Rant over.